Dear Abby is funny to me. People come to her with some of the most inane non-problems I’ve ever heard anyone complain about, and sometimes they ask for help with very serious problems, but whatever the case, every question is worded in the most gentle of tones as if everything were a question about etiquette.
DEAR ABBY: The other day I asked my husband a question and told him to be honest. If given a choice between giving up wine or giving up sex with me, which would he choose?
You guessed it. He said, “Giving up sex with you.” I think I knew the answer before I asked the question, but hearing it out loud devastated me.
I know every woman wants to be No. 1 in her husband’s life. Am I wrong to feel so heartbroken? — LOST THE BATTLE TO CHARDONNAY
Oh, that’s funny. But seriously, Ugly Wife, your letter is lacking on details. We don’t know how much he drinks, how old either of you are, how long you’ve been married, or what you look like. It may be that your husband’s a serious alcoholic and knows he can’t live without his wine. It could be that you husband’s sex drive has fallen to zero for some medical reason. It might be that he doesn’t find you sexually attractive. If you’re writing to Dear Abby, you’re probably old and overweight. So it’s probably mostly that one. To answer your question, yes, it is wrong to feel so heartbroken.
DEAR ABBY: My wife is constantly passing gas. She does not care where she is or who is around. I have worked in the trucking industry for almost 30 years and never ran across anyone as flatulent as she is.She is young and attractive, but there is nothing less appealing than feeling “frisky,” getting into bed and hearing the trumpet sounds. I have recommended she see a doctor, but she laughs it off and says, “Everyone does it.”
I can’t believe I’m the only one with this problem. I could really use some “sound” advice, Abby. — BLOWN AWAY IN ALLIANCE, OHIO
This is clearly a joke. Girls don’t fart.
DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend is very sweet. The problem is, she wants to have sex with me. I don’t think I am ready for that. I also don’t know how to approach my parents about this. I really need some help — fast! — NOT READY IN PENNSYLVANIA
Poor kid. What should he do?
DEAR ABBY: My mother recently passed away. She and Dad were married 52 happy years. Over the years, Mom received a few Christmas cards from “Linda,” my brother’s girlfriend 30 years ago.Dad found Linda’s address and let her know about Mom’s passing. Now he says he and Linda have become good friends. Dad says they’re “only friends” and Linda is someone he can talk to. We are very upset about whatever relationship they have. My brother and I and our children want to be the ones to comfort Dad and be comforted by him. It has been only two months since Mom’s death.
He talks to Linda about everything. They have even discussed the details of Mom’s grave marker. Linda says Dad is the father she never had. (Her father is still living.) I confronted Dad about it, and we had a huge argument. Are we wrong and insensitive for disapproving of his closeness with this woman? — FALLING APART IN TEXAS
Yes and yes. Be happy that he apparently waited for your mom to die before he got close to another woman.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married 13 years and have two children, 7 and 9. About a year ago, my 41-year-old husband befriended an 11-year-old neighbor girl, “Lacey.” Lacey is charming, friendly and plays with my children.
They did this on “Curb Your Enthusiasm”
I have told my husband I am concerned and that it may be an unhealthy relationship, but he becomes angry and insulted and says it’s an innocent friendship. Others have also voiced their concerns to him because they see the same things I do. On the other hand, her parents think the friendship is innocent.
Abby, am I overreacting? Should I view it as an innocent friendship, or could there really be a problem? — WORRIED WIFE DOWN SOUTH
It scares the crap out of people when adults are friends with children they aren’t related to, especially male adults and female children. It probably should, but people who have “neighborhood socials” are likely prone to overreact to shit that doesn’t matter. I wonder if this guy will start an adult relationship with Lacey 30 years from now when his current wife dies. I further if he’s considered this. I have no advice for the woman. I just wanted to share this. Depending on the details, this could be pretty bad.
EDIT: I don’t know what happened, but the first part of the last letter got cut out. I put it back now.