I listen to a lot of Loveline. I first heard the show while in high school, maybe a year before the relatively lame TV show appeared on MTV. Every now and then he tells a caller that before they learn otherwise, young men think the vagina works like an inside-out penis, that what gets them off is what will get a girl off. Usually, he’s telling a girl that she needs to tell her boyfriend (with words) what he needs to do to get her going. The girl isn’t getting what she wants out of sex and instead of going to the person she has sex with to solve this problem, she calls a national radio show. Maybe she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings or something. Whatever, men are not fragile. Girls also think guys should always know what to do without being told.
Anyway, as we experience life, we only get to do so through one set of eyes. Early on, we pick up that other people are experiencing similar lives. We assume a lot, and we are surprised to learn when things are different for other people. We have to learn that our bodies work differently. We also learn that our minds work differently. This we learn through experience, while we’re also fed the nonsense of the blank slate – that all the differences between boys and girls are learned. Several years ago, I noticed that girls cry a lot and gradually came to realize that they’re more emotional and less rational, but just recently it dawned on me. Men live in their logical mind. Women do not. Clearly, women are capable of complex abstract though. They’re able to learn languages and do math. They have the ability, but for a woman the logical mind is a tool, a calculator they can use when they need to do math.
I don’t know if this makes much sense, but the first person I expressed this idea to was a woman and she knew exactly what I was trying to say before I got half my words out, as though it made more sense to her than it does to me.