Is There a Cure for Masculinity?

3 05 2010

Someone posted an ad for a book that is not yet available as a comment to my Feminism post. It asks a lot of questions the book purportedly answers. It’s called Is There a Cure for Masculinity by Adam Jukes. Going by what I can find on this author, he believes that all men hate women and we do so because we experience some traumatic separation experience with our mothers. I don’t know about all that, and I would like to know what he has to say about evolutionary psychology.

• Why is it so hard to get close to a man?

Is it and for who? When you allow someone to get close you make yourself vulnerable. Men do not like to be vulnerable and women are not attracted to vulnerability. In my experience, letting people get close is almost never worth it.

• Why don’t men express emotions except big ones like anger and frustration?

Why do chicks cry so much? Again, it’s about vulnerability and appearing weak. It’s not really a conscious thing. I don’t not cry on purpose. Also, I think there are many things for which we have no emotional reaction. For example, women react to the news of a pregnancy with emotion, while men consider the logistics of the situation.

• Why is most perversion male; why is most pornography produced by men for men? Why is risk taking male and drinking, drug taking, gambling and infidelity are predominantly the preserve of men?

The answer for most of this is that men have a lot more testosterone. I don’t know what exactly perversion is or why it’s the male’s domain? Women have rape fantasies. Men, not so much. You might call that perversion. Pornography is produced by men because men are motivated by profit, for men because they are turned on by visuals. I see no reason to believe that men are less faithful than women. In fact, the opposite seems more likely. Women are just a lot better at getting away with their cheating. We know that women drink and do drugs. I don’t know if it’s more or less than men, but many of the worst drunks I know are women.

• Why is most criminal behavior perpetrated by men? Why is the vast majority of domestic abuse and violence perpetrated by men?

First, I think men are more likely to have very low intelligence than women, and low intelligence correlates with risk-taking and criminal behavior. Also, it seems to be in our genes to take risks. As parents go, fathers are relatively expendable. Men who are the victims of domestic violence are less likely to report anything to legal authorities, and police are less likely to take them seriously. They are more likely to take matters into their own hands and become the perpetrators (at least in the eye of the law), and they are much less likely to stay in an abusive relationship. Women are far more likely to seek out and stick with abusive mates.

• Why are men so concerned with the size of their penis and its symbolic substitutes – big, powerful cars, status, big houses, big money, and big muscles?

These are all symbols of status, and status is what attracts women and earns the respect of all. Most men are not overly concerned with such things unless they are unsatisfied with their status and their success with women.

• Why can’t men tolerate vulnerability?

We can’t? I really don’t know what he means by that.

• Why do men lie, don’t listen, don’t do housework, parenting?

I hate when women ask why men lie. Men lie to get what they want and avoid what they don’t want. Women do that as well, but they also lie to themselves and each other to regulate their emotions.

I wonder how he answers these questions.

Advertisements

Actions

Information

12 responses

4 05 2010
Snark

More importantly, is there a cure for penicilin?

5 05 2010
LS

Interesting, related post:

“Why do they assume that masculine behavior is something like an illness, something to be compared with the kind of social withdrawal they see in autism and schizophrenia? Why do they consider it something that requires treatment?”

http://stuartschneiderman.blogspot.com/2010/05/why-cant-man-be-more-like-woman.html

8 05 2010
Weekend Link Fest – French Pop Tart edition « Seasons of Tumult and Discord

[…] Unfrozen Caveman: Is There a Cure for Masculinity? […]

8 05 2010
Word Around the Campfire – the Mother’s Day edition « Hidden Leaves

[…] Unfrozen Caveman: Is There a Cure for Masculinity? […]

11 05 2010
W1dejay

Would you fuck a dog with a human head? Would you fuck a human with a dog head? Many of you would fuck both, I would only fuck the latter because I don’t want to talk afterwards. No you can’t cure masculinity and it’s wrong to try!

25 05 2010
steve

Why are men so concerned with the size of their penis and its symbolic substitutes – big, powerful cars, status, big houses, big money, and big muscles?

These are all symbols of status, and status is what attracts women and earns the respect of all.

Why are women so concerned with large handbags and shoes. To use the same freudian analogies large empty barren womb substitutes and vagina anlogues for penis like feet to slot into HAR! tell that to the next bitch whining about fast cars

26 05 2010
vasafaxa

Physical risks get rewarded by status. Crimes gain money or status within the community. Status gains chicks. Not even mentioning the bad boy allure.

Emotional risks have no reward. That said I think that the relationships I’ve had with people are always strengthened by them showing emotional vulnerability. Assuming I liked them enough before hand. For guys showing emotional vulnerability does cause a slight hit to attraction. But if she’s already attracted than it can be very powerful. Secretly sensative bad-boy isn’t a rom-com archetype for nuthin’.

22 12 2010
adam jukes

i’m not an evolutionary psych – they have their model and it may be useful in some respects. truths are not mutually exclusive. the model i use is intended to relieve suffering, not simply offer explanations.
i’m a psychoanalyst with 40 years of forensic experience with deviant men.
perhaps you could read my book and give a thoughtful opinion

7 07 2011
unfrozencaveman

“perhaps you could read my book and give a thoughtful opinion”

Hmm, I’m not about to shell out $35 for a book that doesn’t have a single review on Amazon when I reject the premises of the questions it purports to answer.

11 06 2011
Frank

Dr. Jukes, if you;re looking for thoughtful opinions you’ve come to the wrong place. We come here to validate one another’s anger.

5 07 2011
adam jukes

oh, in that case
i’m pissed off and i’m not gonna take it any more!
🙂

16 07 2011
adam jukes

‘caveman’
a well chosen name.
enjoy your isolation and don’t forget to read books by their covers
it saves so much time

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s




%d bloggers like this: